Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

I would like to stop, and I need to convince myself it is OK. Is grave decorating a generational thing, and is the trend not to do so in this day and age? -- GRAVE QUESTIONS IN WEST VIRGINIA Dear ...

I place the flowers because I want people to know I respect my parents, but I often forget to change them seasonally, which seems worse than not decorating at all. I would like to stop, and I need to ...